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Anonymous asked:

can you explain family abolition in a few words?

txttletale answered:

sure. there is no one unitary ‘family abolitionist’ perspective so be aware that i’m explaining this as a marxist and not as an anarchist or a radical feminist.

basically, “the family” is a social construct rather than a fixed self-evident truth. the family has been created and can be shaped, altered, or–indeed–abolished. this is evinced by the broad anthropological and historical record of radical transformations in what constitutes 'the family’ (cf. clans, the extended family, the nuclear family). viewing the family as such opens it up to critique and also to the concept that it could be replaced with something better (in much the same way that, for communist and anarchist, refusing to accept the timelessness / naturalization of the bourgeois state opens up new horizons of political thought outside of engagement with electoral politics.)

among these critiques of the family are:

  • that it is a tool of patriarchal control over women and children by creating an economic dependence upon spouses / parents
  • ergo, that it enables and causes 'abuse’ – that child abuse, spousal abuse, and intimate partner violence are not abberations of 'the family’ but in fact a natural consequence of its base premises re: power and control
  • that it serves as a site of invisiblised economic labour (e.g. housework)
  • that it is a tool of the capitalist (formerly the feudal) economy’s reproduction of inequality via e.g. inheritance laws
  • that it serves as a site of normalization and reproduction of hegemonic ideology–i.e. that it is the site where heteronormativity, cisnormativity, gender roles, class positionality, & more are ingrained in children

among solutions family abolitionists propose to remedy it are:

  • the total dissolution of any legal privilege conferred by romantic or blood relationship in favour of total freedom for any group of people to form a household and cohabitate
  • the recognition of housework, the work of childrearing, & the general tasks of social reproduction as 'real’ labour to be distributed fairly and not according to formal or informal (feminized) hierarchies
  • the economic and legal freedom of children–(i.e., allowing children unconditional access to food and shelter outside 'the family’, allowing children the legal right to informed consent and self-determination)
  • similarly, the emancipation of women from economic dependence on their partners–both of these can only really be achieved via socialism (as marx put it, 'women in the workplace’ only trade patriarchal dependence upon a husband for patriarchal dependence upon an employer)
  • communal caretaking of children, the sick, & the elderly

yeah. i know. this is a lot of words. its not few words. sorry. it’s a complex topic innit. this is a few words For Me consideri ng that i’ve got a long-ass google doc open where i’m writing up a whole damn essay on this exact topic.

tldr: the family is not inevitable, it is constructed & can be replaced with something better. full economic freedom from dependence on interpersonal familial relationships for everybody now. check out cuba’s 2022 family code for an idea of what this could look like as practical legislation.

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tired of jedi characters comparing their relationship to their master with a parent-child dynamic. they dont KNOW that dynamic!

give me more jedi comparing a non-jedi's familial relationship to that of an apprentice and a master - at least that would make sense!

jedi going "yeah, an adult who guides and protects you and you're supposed to listen to them? yeah thats a master- oh, your mom is like that too? neat :)"

more jedi not really understanding non-jedi family dynamics. more jedi being horrified at the concept of someone being rejected or mistreated by their parent, because "why did they choose to have you then???"


there's a lot of interesting parallels between master-padawan dynamics and parental/familial dynamics. i just want to see more of the comparison going the other way.

bucketofdeltav

So first of all YESSSSSS I AGREE SO HARD second of all I wish to offer a counterpoint drawing on my experiences of being a lone foreigner trying to explain myself in a culture that is not my own.

Jedi who know they don't really have 'parents', like there's the crechemasters which is kind of parental and when you're a youngling you're growing up in a world where all the grownups do watch out for you and you get taught different things and cared for in different ways and you're expected to be respectful in different ways to and by different adults, but you don't have one specific adult as your go-to adult until you're nearly a teenager.

And you meet someone from outside the Temple who is so well meaning and says 'oh so like a parent' and they're wrong, they're incredibly wrong in ways you can't begin to express because you'd have to explain your whole culture from the ground up and you're twelve. But based on what you've read about normal childrearing structures in the greater Galaxy, that this well meaning stranger knows and you don't, yeah, sure, 'parent' is probably about as close as you're going to get without making it weird.

So you say 'yeah, sure, like a parent', and when this has happened a few times and you've seen more non-Jedi parenting and tried a few more ways of explaining, you realize that maybe you don't actually know the totality of what a parent is any more than the outside world knows the totality of what a Master is. And you have to smile and nod and say 'yeah, sure, like a parent' and the cycle repeats and you still don't really understand 'parent' and they don't really understand 'Master' and also there's a high chance whoever you're talking to is both culturally and literally an alien.

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how DARE you come onto my post and make my point better than i did you KNAVE!

honestly, though? you put it in words exactly - there's no real way to convey the cultural differences for either parties.

they're wrong, they're incredibly wrong in ways you can't begin to express because you'd have to explain your whole culture from the ground up and you're twelve

there's probably a widespread misconception that masters are a 1:1 parental figure equivalent bc most jedi have better things to do than sit down and explain the intricacies of their specific cultural context and upbringing to some rando who assumed their master was "basically their mom". it be like that sometimes

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joe biden, you stupid fuck. listen to me. Crimes are legal for sitting presidents as long as they’re official actions. Listen: Joe. You have one chance

alex51324

Even if he decides not to do, y'know, the obvious, there's gotta be some creative ways he can fuck shit up for Trump. Nothing he does in terms of actual policy will stick, but make Trump spend his first hundred days undoing Biden's last 75.

Especially make him undo stuff that will be incredibly popular. Executive order legalizing marijuana nationwide. Declare a free pizza party for the whole country, scheduled for the first week of February.

Declassify Trump's IRS records, his FBI file, and everything available about his personal habits during his previous stay in the White House. Did he ever order any pay-per-view porn? Clog a toilet? The American people deserve to know.

I'm just spit balling here; I'm sure there are even better ideas.

not-this-crude-matter

Humbly submitting that it would also be very funny if he resigned and then Kamala did all those things

porcupine-girl

Honestly resigning so that the country gets a black Asian woman President whether the assholes like it or not would be the funniest thing he could do all on its own.

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